Teen Slang · Mood & feelings

What does “Pity party” mean?

Wallowing in self-pity, or telling someone to stop doing so. 'Quit the pity party.'

Where “Pity party” comes from

Long-standing English idiom, still common with teens.

Why teens actually say it

It calls out (or admits to) self-indulgent sadness.

What it means for you as a parent

Usually mild teasing. Notice if it's used to dismiss genuine feelings.

How it’s used

  • “Okay, quit the pity party and let’s figure it out.” Nudging a friend to stop wallowing and act.
  • “I’m throwing myself a little pity party tonight, leave me alone.” Half-joking about wanting to sulk for a bit.

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