Teen Slang · Social & friendship

What does “Pick me” mean?

Someone (often a girl) seen as seeking attention or approval, especially from boys, by putting others down. 'Pick-me behavior.'

Where “Pick me” comes from

From a 2016 hashtag, broadened on TikTok into a common critique by 2021.

Why teens actually say it

Calls out perceived attention-seeking or trying to seem 'not like other girls'.

What it means for you as a parent

Can be a tool for subtle bullying between girls. Worth noticing if it's used to tear someone down.

How it’s used

  • “She’s like ‘I’m not like other girls’ — so pick me.” Eye-rolling at someone fishing for approval by putting others down.
  • “Bragging about never crying is pick-me behavior.” Naming the attention-seeking move. Mildly judgmental.

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