Teen Slang · Dating & relationships

What does “DTR” mean?

'Define the relationship' — the conversation where two people decide what they are.

Where “DTR” comes from

Dating-advice acronym from the early 2010s.

Why teens actually say it

Names the awkward but important relationship-status talk.

What it means for you as a parent

Healthy concept. A good moment to talk about clarity in relationships.

How it’s used

  • “We finally had the DTR talk, we’re official now.” Relief and happiness after clarifying where things stand.
  • “I want to DTR but I’m scared of the answer.” Anxious about asking what they really are. Vulnerable.

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