Teen Slang · Dating & relationships

What does “Benching” mean?

Keeping a romantic interest on the sidelines without committing — texting them just enough to keep them around.

Where “Benching” comes from

Dating-app coinage from the mid-2010s.

Why teens actually say it

Names a manipulative dating pattern of stringing someone along.

What it means for you as a parent

Worth a conversation about respect in dating, in either direction.

How it’s used

  • “I think he’s benching me, he texts just enough to keep me waiting.” Sensing they’re being kept on hold romantically. Hurt and unsure.
  • “Stop benching her, either commit or let her go.” Calling out a friend for stringing someone along. Honest.

← Browse the full A–Z teen slang glossary (500+ terms)

Contact us Have a question? Need help? Send us a note — we read every message.