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Your own screen habits

A 60-second parent self-check.

Remember

They copy what you do, not what you say.

The skill you're building

Modeling the screen habits you're asking your teen to build.

Make it yours
Age
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Phone

Why it matters

A short, judgment-free look at your own screen habits — because kids learn more from what we do than what we say. In a few honest questions it surfaces your patterns (phone at dinner, scrolling in bed, checking mid-conversation) and ends with one gentle takeaway you can actually act on. It isn't about guilt; it's about noticing, since most of our own phone use is automatic and invisible to us. When you model the balance you're asking for, your rules suddenly carry a lot more weight.

The tool

An honest read on your own screen habits plus one gentle, doable takeaway.

Key points

  • Kids copy our screen habits more than our rules.
  • Device interruptions quietly erode parent-child connection.
  • Modeling balance makes your limits far more credible.

The science

Social-learning research shows children absorb behavior largely by watching the adults around them, so parents' own device habits shape kids' attitudes toward screens. Studies of "technoference" — devices interrupting parent-child interaction — link those everyday interruptions to more friction and missed connection. Much adult phone use is habitual and underestimated, which is why a brief, structured self-check reveals what we don't notice. And teens are quick to flag a double standard, so credible modeling is one of the most powerful levers a parent has.

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A one-page summary for the fridge — the takeaway, the skill you're building, and the key points.

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